Honor Your Mom on Mother’s Day
When your mom dies, holidays can be hard because of all the memories attached to them. But Mother’s Day can be especially difficult, because it reminds you that your mom is gone.
Support after a mom’s death is one of the cremation services in Rocky Mount, VA that helps adult children get through the adjustment of having one of their parents gone for good. The grief and knowledge of loss, though, never go away. They change over time, but holidays can bring all that grief and knowledge of loss back to the surface because Mom was always a part of them and, in some cases, the central figure in them (not that Dad wasn’t there, but moms rock holidays).
There is no holiday that can be harder to deal with than Mother’s Day when your mom has died. There can be sorrow as you see and hear friends and coworkers making plans to be with their moms and do something special. It can bring on a sense of being very alone because you don’t have a mom here to do anything for anymore.
Those feelings are normal and they’re the price of love. But there are some positive ways that you can approach Mother’s Day to make it special and to honor your mom.
One thing that you can do is to get involved in a cause or activity that your mom was passionate about. Whether it’s volunteering for a non-profit organization, visiting elderly people you know in the community or in your church, or taking a community education class like sign language, pottery, or drawing, find something you can do that will directly honor your mom’s memory.
Writing a book about your mom’s life – a memoir – is a good way to capture all the things you want to remember about you mom. It may actually expand into a family history, but it preserves everything while it’s fresh on your mind and it gives the rest of the family a written record of their story that includes your mom.
Another thing that you can do to honor your mom is to plant a garden or a tree in her memory. If your mom loved roses, plant a rose garden in her memory. If her favorite tree was an oak tree, then plant one in her memory. You can add a memorial stone in front of the tree or in the center of the garden with your mom’s name and date of death.
One thing that some families who’ve lost their mom like to do is get together on Mother’s Day for a meal. Each sibling will bring a favorite meal that Mom used to make and the family will sit down and eat and share memories of their mom.
If one sibling has the original recipe cards that Mom handwrote back in the day, they could go to a copier place and have the recipes copied for each of the other siblings onto heavy stock paper, then cut and laminated. Wrap these up with a ribbon and leave them beside each sibling’s plate as a special way to honor your mom.
After the meal, the family can put on Mom’s favorite music and play card or board games that Mom used to play with them. This is a great way to share stories, memories, and to tighten family bonds, which would please any mother, living or dead.
For additional information about cremation services in Rocky Mount, VA, our caring and knowledgeable staff at Lynch Conner-Bowman Funeral Home can assist you. You can visit our funeral home at 140 Floyd Ave., Rocky Mount, VA, 24151, or you can call us today at (540) 483-5533.
